My Sexuality & My Faith

Several months ago, a friend shared with me that she referenced my “church friends,” and her boyfriend said, “Sarah, church?” Her boyfriend and I had previously shared conversations about our experiences with non-monogamy, and I might have slept with his cousin once (…I did). “Woman of God” was perhaps not what came to mind for him when he thought of my open sexuality.

If you look at my Instagram profile today, you will see the words “Christian,” “queer,” and “slut” side by side (with a few others in between). And I’m sure my friend’s boyfriend was not the first person to be surprised at this combination of things.

I am not alone in living at this intersection. I had a conversation with a friend who has a strong faith and is making decisions for her career future, in which she said “I don’t know if I’m try’n to be a lawyer or a stripper,” and I responded, “girl, I feel that.” We are multifaceted people.

There are social media profiles like @beloved_arise and @adameli that openly share stories of queer religious folk. Nevertheless, we are certainly still a minority of a minority. People may side-eye us like we’re doing something wrong, because something in their brain is not clicking…and it’s not totally their fault. We live in a culture that places faith and sexual liberation in opposition, when in fact, they can coexist beautifully together.

The Mainstream Narrative

Many religious people have negated any and all productive messages about sex, and as a result, many sex educators hear religion and think throw the whole thing out.

Hosts of the podcast Girls Gotta Eat, Ashley Hesseltine and Rayna Greenberg, talk candidly about many facets of sex unapologetically. Their episode with comedian Usama Siddiquee is called “From Devout to DTF,” and discusses his experience being raised in Muslim purity culture. They bring attention to the important issue of children growing up with misinformation and shame around sex. The solution, it seems, is the hell with religion altogether.

Many people were raised in a conservative religious community or at a house of worship where they were scarred by experiences of blatant sex-negativity, sexism, homophobia, and transphobia. I will never forget a video we watched in one of my sex education classes where a Christian leader standing before a group of teenagers described women’s sexuality as tape, getting less sticky – less utile and desirable – the more things it is stuck on – the more sexual partners she has. Religious trauma is real and should not be underestimated.

Some folks were spared this fate because they were raised without religion at all, but they heard enough bad things about religion from others that they believed the whole thing was, indeed, trash. Many have found ways to connect spiritually without organized religion, in a way that is conducive to their sexuality.

In The New Bottoming Book (which they reference in my favorite The Ethical Slut), the two authors Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy write: “When you bring spiritual awareness to your sexual practice, you can become directly conscious of–connected to–that divinity that always flows through you….For us, sex is already an opportunity to see God.”

For me personally, taking up yoga in recent years and taking classes on topics like tantra have expanded my view of the mind, body, and spirit connection. I find it beautiful how we call God by many different names – creator, divine, mother, nature, universe….

AND, I think you should be able to keep calling on Allah or Jesus Christ if you want to while expressing yourself sexually how you see fit.

Shitty Church History

As a Christian myself, I wondered where sex-negativity in Christianity came from. In Dan Brown’s historically-based novel The DaVinci Code, characters Leigh Teabing and Robert Langdon converse about the start of the first church following the death of Jesus:

“Constantine turned Jesus into a deity who existed beyond the scope of the human world, an entity whose power was unchallengeable…now the followers of Christ were able to redeem themselves only via the established sacred channel–the Roman Catholic Church.”

“For the early Church,” Langdon explained in a soft voice, “mankind’s use of sex to commune directly with God posed a serious threat to the Catholic power base. It left the Church out of the loop, undermining their self-proclaimed status as the sole conduit to God. For obvious reasons, they worked hard to demonize sex and recast it as a disgusting and sinful act. Other major religions did the same.”

Prior to Constantine’s power-hungry manipulation, most people in ancient Rome had a relationship between their sexuality and their spirituality. In the below clip from the movie adaptation of the book (at 2:24 to 3:15), Langdon and Teabing explain how leaders at the time were threatened by “free-thinking women” and silenced sexual and feminist narratives that got in the way of them ruling the world.

So, all this is to say, the first major church, the Roman Catholic Church, has kind of always sucked. At the beginning, its leaders were not motivated by living in alignment with the teachings of Jesus Christ, but by keeping emperors rich and happy.

Centuries after the fall of Rome, figures like Martin Luther and John Calvin questioned Catholic norms like offering salvation in exchange for money, and they split off into the Protestant church. A few more centuries after that, Protestantism has split into so many sects that it includes everything from conservative Bible Belt denominations to my own United Church of Christ (UCC).

My Church

Many people who grow up in a conservative church, whether Protestant or Catholic, don’t know their other options, or are afraid to step out and try the unfamiliar. Yes, the Catholics are still around, not allowing women or gender-expansive people to hold positions of power, trying to fit ancient rules to modern life and creating an image of hypocrisy for Christians everywhere. I think Pope Francis secretly knows what’s up, but progress is sloooow over there. I am lucky that my former-Irish-Catholic mother and Italian-Catholic father decided that black-and-white stances on divorce (People can’t leave their abusers?) and general “Catholic guilt” were enough to push them out of their comfort zones and into finding a different kind of church.

The history of the United Church of Christ includes some great moments, like being the first Christian denomination to ordain a woman in 1853 and to ordain an openly gay person in 19721. It also includes questionable things like being built in a racist system, as many of our churches started as town meeting houses in colonial America.

I am glad to see that the UCC is always working for progress and justice. Since 1985, they have encouraged congregations to go through a process to become “Open and Affirming,”2 a designation which means they are explicitly inclusive of LGBTQ+ individuals in all aspects of church life. I have seen individual churches that have struggled with these ideas, and I have chosen to be a part of a church that does this beautifully.

My church now attracted me with rainbow doors outside. They sponsored a group including myself on an intensive racial justice training, and the first thing one of my pastors did was 👏 throw 👏 out 👏 all 👏 the 👏 images 👏 of 👏 white 👏 Jesus 👏. (That’s right, Jesus lived in the modern-day “Middle East.”) The same pastor preached a sermon a few months back about the importance of being called by your name of choice, highlighting the experiences of transgender people. (I highly recommend a listen here at 35:17 to 46:36, or starting at 24:50 for the full sermon intro.) In everything we do, we strive to focus on the origins of our faith – not Constantine, but Jesus – and his “greatest commandment,” to love one another.

A belief in this call and a faith community are things that many people are not interested in giving up, even as they embark on a journey to living their best sexual lives. Erica Smith says about her program Purity Culture DropoutTM, in which participants can rewrite their sexual values, “Not everyone renounces religion when they renounce purity culture.” So how exactly can our views about sex align with our views about God?

My Beliefs

My view on the topic can basically be summed up as follows: God created a human experience with sexual variety on purpose, and God wants us to live authentically to ourselves and in support of one another.

If you are a Torah or Old Testament believer, then you likely subscribe to the idea that we as humans are created “in God’s image.” Complete with vulvas and penises and vaginas and scrotums and nipples and prostates….

In The Ethical Slut, Easton & Hardy share: “We prefer the beliefs of a woman we met, a devoted churchgoer in a fundamentalist faith. She told us that when she was about five years old, she discovered the joys of masturbation in the back seat of the family car, tucked under a warm blanket on a long trip. It felt so wonderful that she concluded that the existence of her clitoris was proof positive that God loved her.”

God gave us this wild human experience with physical pleasure as a part of it (and even God experienced it, through Jesus Christ, if you’re a New Testament believer). Below is one of my favorite quotes:

Dear Human: You've got it al wrong.  You didn't come here to master unconditional love.  That is where you came from and where you'll return.  You came here to learn personal love.  Universal love.  Messy love.  Sweaty love.  Crazy love.  Broken love.  Whole love.  Infused with divinity.  Lived through the grace of stumbling.  Demonstrated through the beauty of...messing up.  Often.  You didn't come her to be perfect.  You already are.  You came here to be gorgeously human.  Flawed and fabulous.  And then to rise again into remembering.
Courtney Walsh

So no, I don’t believe in a god who created the universe and is mad about my dildos.

I worship a god who did all that and thinks my dildos are great. So long as they are a positive force in the world.

Therapist and content-creator Dr. Sprankle shared another tweet in which he pointed out that “Masturbation, porn, and sex work can be engaged in healthily.” And of course, some sex-negativity-indoctrinated folks came to the rescue (sarcasm) in the Instagram comments, pointing out ways they’d perceived masturbation, porn, and sex work to go wrong. In response, I chimed in: “Key words ‘can be.’ Doesn’t mean ‘always is.’ There are definitely cases where porn isn’t engaged with healthily. There are also cases where alcohol or gambling are engaged with unhealthily, and then there are people who know the line between a good time and harmful behavior.”

Another Instagram user with handle @h.alice.m added on: “hell there’s even times when what we deem as inherently healthy activities can be engaged in unhealthily! Exercise, eating avocados, etc etc.”

To quote The Ethical Slut again: “There is nothing in the world so terrific that it can’t be abused if you’re determined to do so: familial connections can be violated, sexual desire can be manipulated. Even chocolate can be abused. Abuse doesn’t change the basic wonderfulness of any of these things: the danger lies in the motivation of the abuser, not the nature of the item.”

I even heard a sermon about this topic once when I was younger. The preacher talked about how money is not bad, greed is; substances are not inherently bad, but substance abuse can be a problem; etc. And my horny mind extrapolated what was not said: sex is not bad unless it is used for bad.

If you’d rather stay away from money, substances, masturbation, porn, sex work, gambling, avocados, or chocolate altogether, that’s your prerogative. It is not my own choice to do so, and it is not one that I believe my faith prescribes. So long as I am taking care of my neighbor and myself in the process, I can kink it up to my heart’s desire.

More Work To Do

Although I have never attended a church that has told me not to use birth control, I have also never been to a church that has explicitly told me the above. I’ve had to interpret my faith to figure that out on my own.

I recently got drinks with our head pastor (yes, that’s a thing), and I shared with her (yes, her) about my identity as non-monogamous, including that for me, a lot of it “is about sex.” She did not chastise me or even look at me funny. She acknowledged how difficult it must be for me to find my most natural existence as one that goes against the grain. She encouraged me to keep down my own path, as the alternative “is like death, is like feeling not alive.” And don’t I know it.

The feeling of “other” I sometimes experience is analogous to that of groups that we clearly welcome into our church family. If you are gay or trans or Black or an immigrant or need an ASL interpreter to worship with us, you are welcome. As is said in our sanctuary every Sunday, “no matter who you are or where you are on life’s journey, you are welcome here.” I look forward to the day when we can be unafraid to say that yes, we really mean sluts included. Dominatrixes, polyamorous triads, and teenagers making their sexual debuts are all integral parts of “the glory of God’s creation.” In a society where our media tells us that churches are anti-sex, how powerful it would be to stake a claim that we are not.

Faith does not preclude sexual freedom, and sexual freedom does not preclude faith. I hope that those of us who value both can know this and can live our lives feeling fully aligned.

1UCC Firsts

2LGBT History Timeline

Lyrics of Holidays Past

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Trigger warning: This post contains themes of sexual assault.

As a feminist and progressive, I regularly find myself hearing things from years past and cringing. I recently watched the 17-year old movie Love Actually for the first time, and was telling some of the characters on my screen, “I don’t think you can say that anymore,” as they made fat jokes. I even found myself reacting differently to the beloved Mean Girls of my adolescence as an adult.

Each year around this time, holiday music provides us with an opportunity to slip even deeper into the past for a brief visit. Many of the classics we’ve been listening to for the past five weeks originated during the 1940s and ’50s, or even the 1800s.

We smile at images of sleigh rides through the snow and chestnuts popping over the fire.

We hear about children who ask for gifts traditional to their genders:

A pair of Hopalong boots and a pistol that shoots

Is the wish of Barney and Ben

Dolls that’ll talk and will go for a walk

Is the hope of Janice and Jen

It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like Christmas (1951)

First comes the stocking of little Nell

Oh dear Santa, fill it well

Give her a dolly that laughs and cries

One that can open and shut its eyes…

Look in the stocking of little Bill

Oh just to see what a glorious fill

Here is a hammer and lots of tacks

A whistle and a ball and a whip that cracks

Up on the Housetop (1864)

And then, of course, there’s the recently controversial “Baby, It’s Cold Outside” (1944), in which a young woman struggles to balance the competing demands of pleasing a man, doing what would be considered acceptable, and doing what she personally wants (which is hard to definitively decipher).

Many 21st century duos have recorded this song with the original words, including the version on one of my favorite albums, Brett Eldredge’s Glow (2016). Some of the lyrics like “my maiden aunt’s mind is vicious” and “my brother will be there at the door” sound almost silly coming out of the mouth of millennial Meghan Trainor.

In 2018, pair Kelly Clarkson and John Legend released an updated version of the song, telling the story how it should go in the modern era, and I’m amazed I went two years without hearing it (until now)!

Rather than handing the female character drinks of which she doesn’t know the contents (“say, what’s in this drink?”) and trying to persuade her to stay, the male character says of her indecision about having another, “it’s your body and your choice,” and calls her an Uber home. In response to her concerns about her judgmental family members, he even jokes, “what do you still live at home for?”

The man still compliments the woman, saying “your eyes are like starlight” and “gosh your lips look delicious,” but he respects her decisions all the way through, even saying “I want you to stay, it’s not up to me.” We find out at the end of the song that she makes the decision to stay, giving a nice “screw you” to what anyone else might think.

When we listen to the classics and the modern remakes, we can see how much has changed and how much has stayed the same, not just in the songs, but in the world we live in. In the simple fact that I can recognize the gender roles in toys and the expectations of a single young woman as “old-fashioned,” I know we have made some progress. But I’d be naive to say we don’t still treat little boys and girls differently or that we don’t continue to perpetuate sexism and rape culture in our music.

There are still new songs coming out that sound a lot like the original “Baby, It’s Cold Outside.” Check out some lyrics from “She Lovin’ It” (2017):

She said that she don’t wanna be loved

I said, ‘why the hell are you here?’

She said tonight she don’t wanna be touched

And if that’s the truth, why you so near?…

She lovin’ it

I know that she say that she don’t, but she do

Trey Songz

It’s hard to tell whether there’s some playful sexual tension being created by the woman Trey describes, or his character is actually sexually assaulting her. Without more context provided, these lyrics have the potential to encourage some shitty behavior.

Music both past and present can be used as a caricature of society, pointing out its flaws, and allowing us to ask some important questions about what kind of culture we want to promote going forward.

We must continue to rewrite the story, like John and Kelly did. We can make the choices that additional years of history have afforded us the ability to make, and we can continue to push the envelope.

We can call out slut-shaming and remind each other what consent looks like. We can teach young men that sexual assault prevention is as much or more their job as it is women’s. We can stop telling children that child-rearing is a mother’s job, buy our little boys dolls too, and keep toy guns out of the house altogether. We can influence the songs of the next generation.

Dear Good Cop

Uniformed police officer in shadow faces away toward city lights

Hey, good cop. No, not you, who went into law enforcement because you wanted to feel powerful and carry a gun. You, who joined the force because of your genuine desire to protect and serve. And you, who took a job in marginalized or underserved community, maybe even as a member of a that community, hoping to be a positive influence.

I want to acknowledge that 2020 has been a very hard time for you. You have put your own safety at risk to be on the front lines during this pandemic. I know you may be trying to do your job well so you can provide for your family, and that has felt at risk. I know you may feel afraid for your life more than usual. You may feel like the world is against you. These are difficult emotions to handle, and I see that.

You may be thinking that this is all unfair to you, because you only ever had good intentions. You may be wondering why things seemed fine for so long, and now everything has gotten so out of control.

First, I hope you can see that things have not been fine, even if they appeared that way. If you are white, I hope that you can reflect on some of the fear you may be feeling, and perhaps have a newfound sympathy for the fear that people of color face on a daily basis around the police. A fear that they truly cannot escape, because wherever they go, they are still in their skin. I hope that this perspective makes you a better cop, a more thoughtful and intentional cop.

Second, I hope that you can acknowledge that you may not have known everything about the institution you were excited to join. I’m not blaming you for this. I work for a 157-year old company, and I certainly didn’t research every piece of its history before I signed up to do a job I thought I would like. But I am saying: the time has come to learn more. The time has come to think about how the police started in the U.S., who they were meant to protect, and who they considered a threat. The time has come to think about how that has changed and how it has stayed the same.

The time has come to become aware of your biases, handed down to you by your upbringing, your culture, and your training. To uncover the unconscious and hold it up to the light. To be brutally honest with yourself, even if it’s embarrassing or disappointing. Not to get defensive or make excuses. But to say, ‘now I know, and I will do better.’ To hold yourself and others to a higher and higher standard.

If you want to truly be the ‘good cop’ that you set out to be, you will help create an equal world for all people, including in the eyes of the law. You will be an active participant in the change that needs to take place in policing. And you will be a leader in the movement to end systemic racism across all parts of society.

If you’re looking for a place to start, check out this episode of “Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man,” Emmanuel Acho, with members of the police department in the town of Petaluma, CA.

Sarah’s Favorite Things 2020

Oprah Winfrey sits in a VW Beetle covered in red presents with evergreens in the background

Disclaimer: I am not compensated by any of these brands. Although if you’d like to pay me…let’s talk.

Blue Apron

© Blue Apron, LLC

“A lot of you have been asking me about my foooood piiiiics…”

I got a Blue Apron coupon in the mail and thought I’d do it for one week….Here I am over two years later.

I love it because it’s delicious. I mean…I bite into things and go “I made this?!” I regularly impress dinner guests, too.

I love it because of the variety. I’ve cooked so many meals I would not have thought of myself. I get excited as I look forward to the new combinations coming up. And I don’t have to buy any niche ingredients that I will rarely use and eventually throw out.

I love it because it has sneakily taught me techniques that I can use when I’m cooking without a recipe.

I love it because it’s flexible. I can have it delivered two Tuesdays in a row, skip a week, and then get it the following Thursday. And if anything goes wrong with my delivery, they make it right.

And I love it in a pandemic because for every meal they send me, it’s one less meal I have to go to the grocery store for.

5 people can hit me up to get your first box for free!

BruMate

© BruMate LLC

“What’s that thing your drink is in?” This magical thing keeps it cold when I’m outside on a hot summer day, or even if I’m inside in the winter and I’m just a slow drinker. And it comes in tons of designs. I have two for slim cans and one of the “Trio,” which works for craft beer in 16 oz cans, cheap beer in 12 oz cans – with an ice pack “booster seat”- or as a tumbler with a lid!

Ikea Wine Opener

IKEA 365+ VÄRDEFULL corkscrew black 7 "
© IKEA

If you’re out here using an electric wine opener, you’re fancier than me. But if you’re looking for the best thing manual can offer, look no further. This two-piece contraption will neatly cut the label off the top and brings the cork out of the bottle with simple twisting…no pulling or corkscrew arm-finagling required.

I’d pay good money for this kind of utility. But because it’s an Ikea wonder…it’s $6.99.

Aerie “Play” Leggings

OFFLINE Real Me High Waisted Legging
© AEO Management Co.

Full disclosure, I’ve never tried Lululemon leggings. I’m afraid I’ll like them too much and wind up spending way too much money on them. But why bother, when Aerie sells something so great for $45, and they’re usually closer to $30 when I buy them on sale?

The “Play” design is so soft, smooth, and comfortable. They hug my curves perfectly whether I’m working from home all day or doing a crazy new yoga pose. I have them in black, blue, red, green, leopard print, and camo.

And I love shopping at Aerie because of how inclusive they are in their sizing and advertising.

PopSockets

© PopSockets LLC

Here’s my quick five-point pitch for the PopSocket: 1. You will no longer drop your phone on your face in bed. 2. Entertainment, i.e. the ability to spin your phone in circles and pull the PopSocket out and in repeatedly. 3. Built-in kick-stand for video watching. 4. If you experience small pockets and leggings without pockets, you can use the PopSocket to clip your phone to your pants. 5. They’re pretty…mine is rose gold and matches my phone case.

Plus, my ex once got a custom one with a mirror pic I took of my butt.

Dagne Dover “Legend” Tote

© Dagne Dover

Ever hear the phrase “a place for everything and everything in its place?” Here it is in a handbag. If you’re organized like me or want to be, this bag is a must. I always know exactly where I can grab my laptop, sunglasses, water bottle, keys, phone, pen, hair tie…I could go on, there are so many pockets. It’s stylish and sturdy, and worth the investment, especially when it’s on sale. I’ve also used a matching “smallet” (small wallet) for quick grab-and-go of my basic necessities.

Church & State

A church on the, an American flag hanging on the right

With the confirmation of a new Supreme Court justice earlier this week and Election Day quickly approaching, I keep thinking, “how did we get here?” I’ve been asking a lot of questions lately about things I don’t fully remember from history class, like checks and balances, two-party systems, and the electoral college.

Religion & Government

One thing I remember feeling passionately about in school was the “separation of church and state,” which would be better called the “separation of religion and government.” I strongly support religious freedom and was taught that our nation’s secular structure sets us up for success.

The separation of religion and government means government should not control religion. It means you can believe and practice what you want to, and the government should not tell you otherwise (so long as you do not break the law). Since the Civil Rights Act of 19641, it legally means you cannot be discriminated against on the basis of your religion.

It does not mean the government banning people of a certain religion, like the President saying: “Donald J. Trump is calling for a total and complete shut-down of Muslims entering the United States.”2

The separation of religion and government also means religion should not control government. At our country’s inception, this was especially important in contrast to the nations of Europe that were ruled by monarchs rooted in church affairs. The U.S. government was designed to function independently of any religious body.

But religion and government must inevitably intersect, right? I mean, as individuals, we each have our religious affiliations (or lack thereof), and we all are subject to government. I can’t split myself into two.

The morals and ethics of our religious beliefs certainly influence our government. For example, we can ask our government to work for equality because we believe in equality as a concept. The founding fathers themselves did so based on their religious beliefs:

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

The Declaration of Independence3

I can translate my God’s call to love my neighbor as myself4 into votes for politicians that I believe are most likely to help everyone.

However, we go too far when we try to turn our government into a tool to push a specific religious agenda on all Americans.

We should not ask our government to outlaw alcohol because we are Muslim. We should not ask our government to require ladies wear long skirts because we are Hasidic Jews. We should not ask our government to make abortion illegal because we are Catholic or Evangelical.

If we do ask, our representatives should politely decline. In their official capacity, their loyalty is to actual law, not religious law.

Unfortunately, we regularly see such asks raised and politicians doing the opposite of politely declining.

Conservative Christians & Republican Politicians

The Susan B. Anthony List, an organization whose goal is to end abortion, asked President Trump to support this goal. They asked for specific actions like nominating pro-life Supreme Court justices and moving federal funds away from Planned Parenthood. President Trump made them promises, they supported his 2016 campaign, and then he kept many of these promises.5,6

Perhaps President Trump is working with the Susan B. Anthony List so he can get their votes again this year. Or maybe ending abortion supports his own agenda, too.

Since Roe v Wade in 1973, the Republican party has opposed abortion on its platform, a position tied to support from conservative Christians.7

Why are Republicans willing to say “screw you” to the separation of church and state?

On a recent episode of Jameela Jamil’s podcast “I Weigh,” actress and activist Busy Philipps explained:

“Abortion in this country has become a thing that the right has taken…in order to pass a bunch of other really shitty stuff,…not that it’s not shitty for them to try to take away our autonomy and woman’s right to choose, but the fact of the matter is, they’re manipulating the narrative consistently, and they have been for over 20 years now, in order to pass all kinds of other agendas that uphold white supremacy and patriarchy. To get people elected that are not progressive.” 

Referencing a 2013 Politico article, she continued:

“After Roe was passed, Jerry Falwell was also seeing that being overtly racist was falling out of favor.  And so he was like, ‘But how do we get these people into office, how do we continue our agenda?,’ and he was like, ‘Abortion, that’s it.  And we’re gonna appeal to people, and babies.  We’re gonna make it about babies.’  And, they fuckin’ did it man.”

Combined & Lost

Conservative Christians have found their perceived “in” politically with the GOP. But in focusing on the single issue of abortion, they are also supporting a variety of other initiatives that are anti-Christian.

On the October 19, 2020 episode of The Daily podcast, an Arizona woman says she supports Trump because, “I am for God, for life, and for family. That’s it.”

If you really are for God, if you are for Jesus, ask yourself this:

What would Jesus do? Would he support policies that further marginalize people of color, immigrants, women, the poor, the sick, the disabled? Or would he help them?

In combining church and state, many Christians are losing sight of what should be most important to them.

Similarly, many Republicans are losing sight of a key pillar of political conservatism: government with minimum regulations2 and maximum distance from personal affairs. A truly conservative government not wrapped up in religion would value the personal liberty of uterus-owners to make decisions about their bodies.

When “conservative” and “religious” become synonymous, when the agenda of the few becomes the agenda of many, we lose. Not only are we are at risk of losing the essential medical care that is abortion care, but we have also lost a political system that serves us all, regardless of our religious beliefs.